A guest blog article by Cain Hernandez (parent, student, world citizen)
For the most part, marriage has always been the pinnacle of any relationship. From a religious point of view, marriage is a blessing and something sacred. When you talk to the older generations they will tell you that when you got married it was forever and you should stick together no matter how tough it got. Some people marry for love, others for a somewhat “business type” relationship, and in some cultures marriages are arranged so you know very little about the other person. The bottom line is that in this day and age marriage is treated as a joke and we need to get back to a place in society where we respect that institution again.
One key reason for this lack of appreciation in an individual’s life for marriage is television and media outlets. So many so called “reality” TV shows now-a-days, like The Bachelor or Married at First Sight, make a mockery of the institution of marriage. They make a “game” out of it, all for the purpose of getting ratings. The idea of most of these types of shows is to see who can get married and usually there is some type of prize money awarded to who ever can “get the bachelor” or “stay married the longest”. Slowly and effectively these types of shows are tearing away at the fabric of our society by catching the attention of younger generations and warping their minds and views of what marriage should really be about. Marriage is an institution that is built on a foundation of love, trust, and commitment.
Another example of this is tabloids and shows like Keeping up with the Kardashians. Again, most of the portrayals of marriage in these examples are done for ratings or selling magazines. Tabloids print stories of scandals in celebrities’ marriages to appeal to the reader because the public craves a juicy story like these and a lot of the times the stories aren’t even real. TMZ does the same thing as the tabloids, digging up dirt and juicy stories that the public wants to hear about regarding celebrity relationships.
The truth is sometimes these media outlets can be the cause of break-ups in relationships.
For instance, in Keeping up with the Kardashians, Kim Kardashian is notorious for bouncing from one marriage to another in a matter of months. Many people believe she does this for ratings on the show. A majority of the time these marriages end for the most insignificant reasons. The sad part about this is that young girls watch these shows and want to grow up to be just like her.
But where is our society headed, when our youth are beginning to emulate these types of role models? Honestly, a lot of unsatisfied marriages due to marrying for possibly the “wrong” reasons, such as a pregnancy, all your friends are getting married, fear that you are running out of time to get married, a celebrity did it, or for money. For these reasons, and more, there is a lack of respect for the institution of marriage in our society.
We only have to turn on the television or see the tabloid success to understand how an individual’s choice to get married for the wrong reason can possibly have an influence on others and ultimately create a bad image of marriage in society.
This is a seed of change that should not continue to be planted in society. We need to restore respect and appreciation in the beauty of marriage – even if it isn’t an easy undertaking to be a part of. Honestly, we need to teach our youth that the images and stories we see and hear about on TV, in regards to marriage, are not reality.
Or maybe, we just need to turn the “reality” TV off.